How does one succeed in life?
Last Updated: 20.06.2025 05:18
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Ask yourself:
Why do almost all vertebrates have tails, but not apes and frogs?
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Do not set goals—set systems.
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
Which city should one visit between Nice and Cannes? Why?
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
What I need from you?
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
Does being poor build better character than being born rich?
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Why does my girlfriend keep asking me if I love her?
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Does not procrastinate.
What is a fun psychological trick to try on someone?
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
Why does it matter so much to atheists that God doesn't exist?
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
What is an easy way to get your driver's license?
Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
Living to your full potential is a goal.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
What are LGBT+ people tired of hearing?
That's it for today.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
Making more friends is a goal.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
Procrastinates a lot.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?